Every once in awhile I get fired up about something. I’m not one to stir the pot or dive into confrontation, and so I stay at a distance and let the water boil, so to speak. One second I want to talk to Fox News (which actually was an option for those on either side of the issue) and the next I don’t. I’ve found that it’s best if I let my anger or frustration fizzle out a little bit before firing off an e-mail or a Facebook status update or comment.
So that’s what I did this week.
But for some reason, I just can’t let this go. It’s a subject that I’ve remained extremely quiet about. This blog is one of bravery and courage because goodness, it’s taken me awhile to speak up about this issue.
I recently joined a mom’s Facebook group when I moved to my new city on the recommendation of a friend of mine. Some days I regret joining. One day this week I hopped on to find that a parent shared a teacher’s letter. This particular teacher teaches in the same county that my children attend school in in our new city. My children don’t go to that school, but it really got me thinking about what I would do in the situation. In a nutshell, the teacher wrote to parents explaining that she would like to cultivate a classroom where students used “gender-neutral” pronouns (i.e. “they, them, and their”) to address one another. In fact, the teacher even wants to be addressed as a Mx. (pronounced mix). In her letter she says, “I know it takes some practice for it to feel natural, but in my experience students catch on pretty quickly.”
THERE IS NOTHING NATURAL ABOUT THIS.
I just sat and stared at the letter and reread it and let it mull over in my mind until I was just mad. I also thanked God that my students did not a) Go to that school and b) Have that teacher.
I’m a Christian, and this obviously plays a huge part in how I live my day-to-day life. I believe that the Bible is true, and I believe that God created “man and woman” (Genesis 2:7, 2:22). There shouldn’t be confusion over this, but this confusion shouldn’t come as a surprise because this world is full of sinful people, just like me. Let me be clear in that while I’m a Christian and try to live my life according to the Bible, I still mess up. Nobody is perfect (Romans 3:32). I’ll never forget the week when a Christian woman with a huge following that I looked up to a lot spoke out about her feelings on some subjects that made me scratch my head and frown. Her turning from truth is something she’ll need to wrestle out with God. It’s dangerous to tweak the truth just to survive in this culture we live in today.
I want to add that I’m aware that I cannot live my mom life or parent in a bubble. I wish I could, but I cannot. My children will be subjected to these issues, just as much I will be confronted with them. And that’s why I wish that my children could live my childhood. It was simple. I felt like I stayed innocent a lot longer than my children might. I know alternative lifestyles existed then, but thanks to media today, it’s loud and proud and smeared all over the place. The issues I read about and see out there today scare the crap out of me.
One might say that yes, I lived in a conservative homogeneous little town. One might say that I grew up in a Southern Baptist church. One might say that I lived in a conservative Christian home. “Yes” to all of the above. I’m thankful that I grew up in that town and was raised by two amazing parents. I have lived a lot of life since then. I went away to college, got married, earned my master’s degree, moved south, and then I moved south of south. My parents raised me to be kind, loving, and considerate of ALL people, BUT they also taught me Biblical truth. It has stayed with me. My faith has become my own and not just my parent’s faith that was projected onto me. It leads me to this:
I cannot turn a blind eye to sin.
I cannot take from the Bible what I like and forget what I don’t like.
I cannot twist the truth to make me feel better.
I cannot be silent about the gospel.
I cannot allow my foundation to be built on sand and not the “rock that is higher than I.”
It is because of the above, that I stand by the fact that if one of my children was in the classroom of the teacher who sent that letter home, I would ask if my child could be placed in another classroom. If not, I would probably pull my child out of that school…or even out of public school in general.
As a parent I have a responsibility to share and model Biblical truth to my children. When I launch them off at age 18, it is my prayer that they will remember everything their father and I taught them. I am not stupid. I know that they’ll make mistakes. They will make decisions that might disappoint me. This will be a phase of my life where I will have to let go and truly let God grab the steering wheel.
If you are a parent that would applaud this teacher’s letter and blow trumpets in the name of inclusiveness and diversity and tolerance and different lifestyles, I still love you. I disagree with you, but I will not disrespect you. I would love to sit peacefully over a cup of coffee and chat about it (even the Mx. in this controversy). I’m all about learning different viewpoints, but I will stand firm in my faith.
I know that this post will be controversial for some. I almost didn’t hit the “publish” button, but I felt like these words were too important for me not to do so. I don’t want to let fear rule me, and so I became brave today. If you think differently than me, that’s fine. I love people, and I love Jesus. I also love the Bible, which is the inerrant Word of God.
A lot of people, even some Christians, like to think of Jesus as a big cuddly teddy bear who is completely love. He is love (1 John 4:8) and yes, he ate with sinners, but what a lot of people deny or forget is that he is a just God (Isaiah 5:16) who abhors sin (Psalm 5:4, Proverbs 6:16-19). Thankfully, He sent his son to pay our debt on the cross. I am a new creation in Him because of this. Therefore, I have to allow this scripture to permeate who I am, especially in this climate and in this culture: “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”