We are on day 10 of snow/ice and “No School.” Last week I wrote a blog post about being filled with the fruits of the spirit, found in the book of Galatians, and cherishing these days….snow daze. That was before I knew that Knox County schools would be out for another week. Oh, I’m kidding. It is easier said than done, though. I am definitely getting a dose of what it is like to be a homeschooling mom. On several occasions it has been confirmed for me that homeschooling is just not the path for all of us: the kids and me alike. Case in point: yesterday I printed out some math worksheets and after tears and struggles and frustrations, my daughter looked at me and said, “I want somebody else to teach me.” My response was, “Well, darlin’, since you have been out of school for almost two weeks now, I’m the only teacher you have.” In total transparency there has been a lot more play than work going on for the past two weeks. I will be ready to get back into a routine next week…and I’m pretty sure my kids will enjoy the routine as well.
Somebody around here has been learning lessons, however, and getting “schooled” in the matter of surrender. You see, the snow has been such a reminder of what surrendering to God really and truly looks like.
The snow reminds me that I’m not in control. I cannot drive up to God’s drive-thru and order up sunshine and pleasant temperatures. I cannot call up the school superintendent and explain to him my to-do list and how being out of school has put me behind. No, I just cannot do that. It is out of my hands. The bigger question becomes: Why would I? His plans are perfect. He is omniscient and omnipotent. He is the teacher here, and I am the student.
The snow reminds me that I am selfish. So many times this week I have yearned for “me” time. I just want to be able to sit down and read a book without getting interrupted. I just want to load the dishwasher without my youngest pulling the dirty dishes back out. I just want to watch an adult show and not another show that has an animated animal in it. The snow has reminded me, however, that I have these three blessings for a very short time (like the snow in East TN, here today and gone tomorrow). Yes, it is important to do laundry and dishes and the list could go on, but it is even more important to spend time investing in these little people that God has loaned to me, especially in this moment. While I have no idea what the weather will look like a year from now, there is always the chance that there won’t be any snow days next year. Heck, there has been more snow in East Tennessee in the last two years than in the eight before that.
This morning on Facebook I saw a photograph that really choked me up. I stared out the window and blinked back tears that were begging to be released because of reading the words some people created on a sidewalk outside of East Tennessee Children’s Hospital: Feel Better. What a dose of reality, folks. I have a child who was in the NICU at Children’s two and a half years ago, so I know what it is like to visit your sick child who is living in a hospital. That baby is healthy now, and so are my other two children who were also born premature. While so many sick children were lying in beds at the hospital I was irritated that I couldn’t finish my coffee and watch the Today Show because my kids needed me. One child was running around in a diaper, and the other two kids were begging me to come outside and build a snowman with them. I obliged, and it was so much fun. Please don’t hear me incorrectly on this. We all need our time, those moments where we can be alone and decompress (last night for me, thanks to a wonderful husband), but I have been learning the bigger picture.
Selfishness is connected to surrender. Until we put aside ourselves and our agendas, surrendering will not happen We must completely step aside to let God enter. There is freedom in surrendering. It’s acknowledging that we know that we are not enough, and that can be a relief. It’s trusting the bigger plan. That plan may include an unexpected two-week break from school, and that is okay. Sometimes those moments where my Jesus slows me down (ie. Snow days, my illness, my child’s illness, etc.) are the moments where he becomes bigger, and I become smaller.
I don’t know why I am always learning this. One would think that after 35 years, it would sink in, but I believe that surrender is a daily process. Every day when we wake up we can choose to go our own way or surrender to the One who knows our way. It isn’t easy, but there is beauty in the process.
There may be sibling quarrels (the first was at 7 a.m.), and there might be complaining about what we’ll eat for lunch, but I am going to trust Jesus on this one. I may not fully understand why the kids have been out of school every day for the past two weeks, but I am going to bank on the fact that it’s part of the bigger plan. I will fly my white flag of surrender. Perhaps I’ll even trace one out in the snow.
ALL TO JESUS I SURRENDER
ALL TO HIM I FREELY GIVE
I WILL EVER LOVE AND TRUST HIM
IN HIS PRESENCE DAILY LIVE.
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